I coach and direct to retrieve the purest form of our humanity in my work. I have always stated that a photo should not depict how it looks but how it feels. With coaching for emotion, my work gives you a feeling which connects with the subject in my images, it always you to be moved which is what I define as Art.
The word 'emotion' encompasses a broad range of feelings, behavior and changes in the body and mind.
Joy . Fear . Surprise . Sadness . Disgust . Anger . Anticipation . Longing . Desire
When a boudoir session is booked with me, my client my have an intent to gift these images, which is a beautiful gift. My intent is to ensure I am gifting my client with an understanding of how beautiful the world sees them. No one has a mirror on them when they are stating a point with conviction or when they are shedding a tear for a loved one, these emotions are the absolute form of life and of our beauty. I give you the opportunity to see these emotions in you as this is why your friends and family love you- they see you in all your glory where as most times you do not see this yourself.
Ever flipped through the pages of a Victoria’s Secret Catalog and felt a little disheartened?
What you may not realize is there are hundreds of people behind the scenes crafting those photos. What you see is experts crafting styles that are right for certain body types. OR BETTER YET- picking models that have one body type (slim with no curves) to easily wear all their styles.
Perhaps you’ve just been purchasing the wrong kind of lingerie which didn’t feel like “you” …or you were just plain uncomfortable wearing it. I find that a lot of my Modern Love Boudoir clients say this very same thing.
Now, in the real world we have a headcount of 1 supporting our personal styles for our shoots :) All we need now is to B E T H E E X P E R T in our body type- that simple!
A C C E N T U A T E . T H E . P O S I T I V E .
By identifying your body type ( which does not mean you are classifying your type by “less than perfect”) you can learn to focus on the parts of your body you love the most. I encourage this for every boudoir photography along with learning to explore your sensuality and being comfortable and confident in your true emotions.
The bonus here is that appropriately fitting lingerie will embrace your every curve and allow you to as well.
Prior to your session, you will receive many tips and ideas to support curating your personal boudoir wardrobe. If you choose to utilize our hand crafted wardrobe, I will be spending time styling you before we start posing and capturing your stunning images. I will spend time talking with you about what makes you vulnerable and what makes you confident to truly get you in the right mindset, this will also allow me to understand the style of imagery, thus selecting the right wardrobe for all things considered.
F I N D I N G . T H E . O N E .
Lingerie designers make high quality lingerie for women of every size and body type. From plus sized lingerie to petite lingerie, there is a brand and a cut just for you. You’ll discover the best styles for your own body simply by being a little more self-aware.
Identifying Your Body Type
Take a moment to undress and look into your mirror, making sure to have great posture.
This is not a time for you to be critical, but rather to look at your own anatomical geometry. Yes, I used the word “geometry”. It’s a series of measurements and angles that create a mere shape. Not the WRONG SHAPE, simply “A SHAPE”.
No matter what your weight is, a woman’s geometry will be classified as either:
Apple - like an apple, you tend to be broader at the top (bust and shoulders) than the rest of your torso.
Pear - if you're this type, your torso tends to be fuller on the bottom (i.e. “The Apple Bottomed Girl…don’t confuse your fruits!”)
Rectangular – A very straight figure, from the shoulders to the hips.
Hourglass – This is a rare breed, but generally this includes those women who have equally curvy measurements on top and bottom, with a narrower, well-defined waist.
Is one shape better than another? Absolutely not. Every single body figure can look equally great in lingerie when it fits the shape.
The Truth Is……. Curves Never Go Out Of Style!
A P P L E
Corsets are great for your body type, but not great for your photography session with me. Anything with boning, creates bubbling and a ripple effect when I am coaching you to contort your body. It is all too familiar if you have worn a corset before. You sit and out pokes the boning in all the wrong areas.
The key for an Apple women is to draw eyes away from the waist or center. With broader shoulders and a larger bust, clothing with V-necks, scoop necks and strapless tops will draw attention to your bust, face, and shoulders will make you look amazing.
Babydolls... With the goal of showcasing your upper half, the dresses and tops that show some skin on the ‘upper level’ is a great idea. Babydolls tends to be simple and flowy on the bottom half, while the bust area is tailored and detailed.
P E A R
Love your décolleté and waist and accentuate there. This will draw attention away from your bottom half to showcase your “little middle” and fabulous bust. Choose push-up bras, or a bustier to slender your waistline. Or a long line sheer dress that has a intricate design and shape along the chest and abdomen with a long a line shear skirt.
High Waisted Panties are ideal for you with a Bralette for the top!
Tight-fitting pants Why be a hater on your pear bottom? Play up that bottom half with hugging sexy tights or stockings.
R E C T A N G L E
If you’re very straight you may wish to create the illusion of curves. Paying special attention to the busts and the legs, we can create gorgeous curves with a waist cincher underneath a lace body suit. A padded push up bra can also draw a lot more attention giving you a rounder, fuller appearance where you want it most.
Chemises...Chemises look amazing on a rectangle figure, with a well-padded top.
H O U R G L A S S
This figure is very easy to work with when it comes to lingerie, and the key is to be form-fitting. Teddies and chemises do a good job of flattering the hourglass figure, especially fitted ones.
Classic styles and retro looks, like the old Hollywood and vintage pin up magazines from the middle of the twentieth century were all created with curvy women in mind.
Wondering Where and What to Shop? See my Boudoir Pinterest Board!
T I P S . F O R . A L L
Wearing a great pair of stockings, along with sexy shoes to match, is by far the best way to complete your look any time and make your legs look longer, slimmer, and sexier.
Please keep in mind- with stockings it is essential that you are investing in a pair that are 1-2 sizes bigger than your body weight and height. The top of the stocking should sit right in the crouch line ensuring that the stocking is not cutting off the leg mid thigh. Muffin thigh is a thing and we want to avoid this and showcase your leg length.
Simplicity... is key, I’d rather you outshine your jewelry! Try to bring a statement piece or none at all.
As I pose you through our session, you will find ways to improve your posture and really make your confidence soar. I coach guide and direct you thru your entire session. You will feel out of breath and soar- almost like a yoga class. All you can think about is how amazing you feel!
Let’s not forget. . . . . . nude is always in style!
“Well behaved Women seldom make History.” ~Thatcher Ulrich
To understand the beauty behind the art of boudoir photos and photography, you must know the history.
In the roaring 20’s as an alternative to to illegal acts captured in photographs, we created Boudoir. The initial images captured were larger women behind elaborate backdrops.
As Boudoir imagery caught on and the 20’s shifted to the 50’s, so did the Boudoir creative. Thus, came pin up girls with curves and corsets and even menswear like dress shirts and ties.
As we continued to progress in art, fashion and culture we hit the 70’s with glamour boudoir. This imagery began to be socially accepted as “professional art” among the artistic community. Magazines started featuring actual images of women, not drawings, which helped Boudoir to hit the mainstream.
The mindset in the 70’s was still closed off for most, even tho fashion boudoir was acceptable. Women posing without bras or panties made for glorified pornography as there was no fashion lingerie story to tell, only a bare bum and an open bosom.
Luckily, with the changing times of the 20th and 21st century there have been further acceptance of once illegal activities, such as same-sex relationships and marriage. These once “frowned upon lifestyles” are now accepted among most of society…and boudoir is close at foot. Now, Boudoir is started to be become one of the most respected forms of capturing natural beauty of the female form.
While the art of boudoir and glamour photography has become more accepted, it still has many strides to go.
You should not let the negative opinions of boudoir photography hinder your desire to try it. The art of posing for boudoir photographs is for women of all shapes and sizes and you must keep in mind that nudity is not a requirement.
Boudoir photography is meant to be sexy and it shows the true beauty that is your womanly figure.
However, the level of dressed (or undressed) you decide to be is ultimately your decision…if you feel sexy then you should embrace your femininity.
You may be envisioning a celebrity with a fan and a backdrop and all these cameras 180 degrees around them? You may not be the “Celebrity” type, but you deserve to be treated like one, and you will be even more convinced after a day in my downtown Hayward Loft Studio. Just come with clean, dry hair, clean and moisturized skin, and an open mind and we will take care of the rest!
Y O U . A R E . W O R T H. I T
You’re Nervous In Front Of A Camera
Imagine this, there won’t be a lens. I set my camera down and we have some down to earth one on one real talk before I even pick up my camera. There is nothing to capture if I don’t have you in a raw and pure state of mind that is ready to share their emotions and story with me.
You’ve Never Done It Before
“THIS IS SO NOT LIKE ME”
We know that feeling! A bit out of touch with who you were, who you want to be? A boudoir shoot can help you reconnect with that person. It’s all about seeing yourself from someone else’s lens.
You Can Honestly Search Your Camera Roll And Find Less Than 10 Photos Of JUST YOU!
You also can think about all the money you have spent on photography (family photos, school photos, sports team photos). None of those include JUST YOU.
You’re Single And Living Your Best Life
Before you dive into another relationship, you’ve taken a minute to focus on you. Good girl! There’s nothing better than being happy all on your own. Savor this independence!
You Lost Weight (or gained it, or it’s still there)
You don’t have to lose weight (or get into any kind of shape) before booking your shoot. No matter what your weight is, I will still be the creative director. With this said, your photos will be absolutely stunning with my professional guidance.
You Are Often Comparing Yourself To Other Women
And surely you have seen boudoir photos of other women and compared yourself to them, too. We all do it. ALL OF US. But when you’re on the other side of the camera, something special happens. You start to understand all the ways that you’re beyond compare. And every time you look at your own boudoir photos, it will be a reminder of JUST that, which changes your perception FOREVER. It is actually kinda addictive, naturally.
You’re Getting Married
Probably the most common reason women book a boudoir session. Our “little black book” albums will make your significant other feel like they’re in on your best kept secret, YOU in all your confident glory!
You Want To Spice Up Your Marriage Or Relationship
Disclaimer: a boudoir shoot won’t fix your marriage or relationship. What we have found proven: It will change the perception you have on yourself, in return give you a new energy which has been proven to attract your significant other!
It’s Your Wedding Anniversary
I love watching the same brides come in for their first wedding anniversary gift. Whether you’ve been married for a year or 30 years, a boudoir album is the perfect way to say, “You’re still the one.”
You’re getting a divorce. But you’re not an ex-wife. You’re a present woman. Take the high road, do it for YOU, and you will look back on these years with a smile on your face.
Capturing this moment in time is all I have to say. Coming from a MAMA herself, it takes maybe a week until all the fuss settles after delivery and all you realize is that you and that precious soul that was created by your own soul is now not within you and not connected to you physically. You may actually not remember that last kick you felt. That uncomfortable night in bed now is a memory you miss even though at the time- you couldn’t wait for this stage to be through. I can’t speak to images marking a moment in time enough than when a mother and her child are captured together.
You Had a Baby
We love babies, but we love new moms more. You did all the work, after all. Get a sitter and peel yourself away for a few hours of reconnecting with your body. BUT, then book a mommy and me session there after. You deserve to reconnect with your body as this is a HUGE part of what you are focusing on after baby. HOWEVER, the entire bliss in your day is that new baby that YOU worked so hard to create and now connected for all time. Many loved ones are wanting these images of you and the special love bug you have created.
You’ve Never Worn Lingerie
You’d be surprised how very common this is. In fact, some women don’t bring lingerie to their shoot at all, because I have a wardrobe to swoon over and have had some many years of styling all body sizes, shapes and heights. Leave it to me and I will show you the ropes for when you are ready to buy some of your own “just because.”
You Have A Favorite Piece Of Lingerie
And it’s not going to look like that forever. One day that lacy thing is going to mysteriously change shape (blame the laundry), and you’ll want something to remember it by.
You Need A New Photo For Your Online Dating Profile
As long as you’re ready for a very busy dating life the moment you post it.
You Need Some New Wall Art.
Albums are our THE MOST popular gift item, but it’s not uncommon to frame some photos for yourself.
It’s Your Birthday!
Put on your birthday suit and party with us.
It’s Someone Else’s Birthday!
No ones wants a watch for their birthday, trust me.
You Have A Insane Pair Of Heels Just Sitting In Your Closet
Do it for the shoes !!!
You Have Fine Lines And Wrinkles
And you worked hard for every one of them.
It’s Father’s Day!
Tools are nice, but you’re hotter.
It’s Mother’s Day!
Do you feel guilty when you step away for five minutes? We’re going to need you to set that guilt aside and spend a whole day in our studio. Don’t be shy to ask for this as a gift—or, give it to yourself.
You Just Became A Grandma!
But correct me if I’m wrong—you don’t feel like a grandma? Maybe you feel younger and more alive than ever? Maybe this baby is giving you life like you’ve never known it before? As a photographer- it is my duty to tell you that ever chapter needs to be documented. YOU ARE WORTHY!
The beauty of a Woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she longingly gives the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.
~ Audrey Hepburn
Late last Summer I decided after many seasons to elevate some sets in my boudoir studio. I added a wood and greenery element to curate a moodier set. I utilized an area in the studio that became more of a holding grounds for un needed furniture and additional wardrobe. This space was swept away, literally.
We brought in this magnificent wood headboard that highlights gold and rich brown tones with a broad mouth leafy floor standing plant. Instantly, this space was transformed into a shady back drop with this unimaginable natural sunlit glow. This space gives to a soft, romantic and enduring feeling of subtle sultry. It takes experience, right natural lighting during the day, the right styling and of course hair and makeup (not inspired by you tube). I respond to a peachy cheek with bushy eyebrows and a natural and teased body wave in the hair. All of these elements and decisions coming together makes for a new year in the studio with a fresh look!
Check out more of my work on my gallery!
Well, once I get going - I don’t stop there. Originally when setting this studio I was inspired by creams and gold. I installed a jaw dropping molding design on a 20 ft tall wall that spanned over 30 feet alongside the back of our Boudoir suite. This wall was impressive, however, like most aesthetics became an afterthought to conceptualize in sessions. As a result, we went on to paint this wall with a charcoal that has blue undertones, even a bit of juniper green in certain lights. I HAD TO EXPLORE! I chose neutrals on this set with Malia, which gave way to a true fashion look. These images speak for themselves…
Deep, meaningful love and connections are not confined to partner relationships, however, begin with Self Love and expand to so many others in our lives. Today however we are going to focus on our ride or die lady friends!
I set about shopping and I’ve found gifts for every budget and for just about every gal. I had so much fun window shopping for you all that I decided to create inspiration boards and a Pinterest Board where you can shop loads of pretty and fun things I found!!
All of these items are from Forever21 and many of them are under FIVE DOLLARS, score! I thought they were are all darling and I would be delighted to receive any of these gift!!
There is a mix of price ranges in this board but make no mistake each is a beautiful luxury product from Nordstrom that are gorgeous!
This board is for YOU sex positive gals out there!! Loveabliityinc has created amazing and beautiful products for sexual heath that are Vegan | Nontoxic & Pretty Damn Empowering. With a selection of condoms, lubricants and other safe sex products I can’t help but love this company for taking the stigma out of your sexuality and safe sex!
Celebrate YOURSELF and the women who have been there for you through thick and thin —bad dates, good dates, expanding families, job promotions, bad decisions, good decisions, late-night calls, binge-watching parties. Why not pick up one of these gifts to let your besties know just how much you adore them each and every day!
Most of us know that February 14th is Valentines Day. It is a holiday celebrated across the globe where lovers express their affection, gifts and sentimental gestures and cards. It is a day where we set aside time to acknowledge and honor the relationship we have with our lovers. Nice enough…
But what about all of the other loves of your life? You know who I’m taking about, those ride or die babes, your closest of confidents, your true partners (in crime). Thank you “Parks and Rec” for creating an officially non official holiday that gives us an excuse to celebrate with some of our most beloved gals.
And with that, welcome the Galantine’s Day blog post!
Galantine’s Day has become very popular and I for one could not be more pleased about it! I believe the holiday fills a deep need and has surely found it’s footing in our current culture.
It acknowledges a broad truth about American life: Friendships, increasingly, are playing an organizing role in society. For far too long friendships were considered secondary relationships to marriage, kids and family.
I am of the opinion that if we have chosen to live a life full of the above mentioned, then those friendships are imperative to maintain balance …….and dare I say keep us sane! Now, if we have chosen a different path and not gone down the traditional road of marriage / kids / family those friendships are part of the foundation of our lives. They are our connection to beauty, love and humanity. They are special and incredibly important; something to be cherished and certainly celebrated!
Another really beautiful part of this Holiday focus… is the way we look at our relationship with other women and friends today. This cultural shift, is in part, what seems to be fueling movements like Galantine’s Day and other female positive movements.
No matter if the women we depend on are the friends we've known since kindergarten, college, colleagues at our first jobs, or are new friends, we're looking to each other for support. This is a big shift from decades ago when women were told that they couldn't count on each other, that other women were catty or cruel.
It's easier to be brave when you're not alone, almost like you're collecting an army of people who inspire you, lift you up and tell some good jokes once in a while.
It’s pretty damn easy and the possibilities here are endless…
Send pretty invites (I love pretty paper products)
OR IF YOU ARE LIKE ME AND CRAZY BUSY
Group text your girls an invitation to celebrate GALentine’s Day with you because we simply don’t have enough excuses in the world to spend quality time with them…
Picnic at the park
Movie date in or out
Belly dancing class
Toy shopping (wink)
A group boudoir party day at Modern Love (sorry, I had to!)
A cool ass craft project at home
Make Valentine’s day cards together for a local children’s hospital or rest home
I could go on with this list FORVER but y’all get the idea. Spend time together, love on each other and have a kick ass day babes!
If I have not made a good enough case for you initiating a GALentine’s Day event
Well here is 23 reasons why you should from BUZZFEED, this may be what tips the scales and gets you out and connecting with the ones you love!
It’s time to wrap up this miniseries on “Date Night” with some great ideas for activities and links to books and products!.
“DATE NIGHT” IDEAS & STUFF:
If you’re looking for…Pure Fun
Who said dates have to be boring? Go out and have some fun with these ideas!
Relive your childhood. Ignite your sense of playfulness by making a list with your companion of all the pastimes you both enjoyed as kids. Then pick your top four and have a child-free date engaging in these youth-centric activities.
Play dress-up at a thrift store, and take photos! Thrift stores are rich with ridiculous outfits just waiting to be worn. Go to one, and set a rule that you each get to assemble three outfits for the other, and they must be tried on. There’s no “no” on this date. Make sure your phone is fully charged, because the photo ops are an essential part of the experience. Decide beforehand whether you’ll share your adventure on Instagram.
Make a movie … not that kind. Go to different locations around your neighborhood and take mini videos of you each letting loose with wacky dance moves, speaking in accents to strangers, and creating other screen-worthy moments. To amp up the Hollywood factor, film each other in a few of the outfits from the thrift-store outing.
See a Comedy Show. See your favorite comedian, or see a roster of up-and-comers — you never know where you'll be seeing them next. Besides, life can be hard, and you deserve to laugh until your beer comes out your nose.r .
Play Pool. Shoot some pool, drink some beer, and call it an awesome night. Oh, and try to win.
Go to a Midnight Showing of The Rocky Horror Picture Show. Find a local showing of The Rocky Horror Picture Show, dress-up, and get into it.
If you’re looking for…Budget-Friendly
A cheap date doesn't have to be a bad date. These ideas will have you balling on a budget.
Check out of parenthood and into board games … and TV binge-watching. Stock up on your favorite “off-limits” sugary and salty carbs, set up sleepovers for your kids, build a nest of blankets and pillows in your living room, and pull out a few nostalgic games. When your mind needs a break, grab the remote and binge, baby, binge! (P.S. Pillow fights encouraged.)
Write letters of adoration. Insert a few awws here. Or some hesitation from your partner, because yeah, love letters can sound cheesy. But cheesiness aside, the sweet connection on the other side of writing and reading what you value in each other is what true love is made of. In preparation for the date, purchase beautiful paper and calligraphy pens from a craft store and set up a special space to write together.
Road Trip. Head on a (Mini) Road TripPick a destination about an hour from where you live—it could be anything from a flea market to a restaurant off the beaten path—and just drive.
HIT UP THE FARMERS' MARKET
And then see what sort of fresh dinner you can make with those ingredients.
GO TO A TOURISTY PART OF YOUR NEIGHBORHOOD
You scoff at it, but there are probably some really cool views and things to do. Be shameless for a day
Go to the Zoo. Stroll through the local zoo admiring everything from the tigers to penguins while getting to know each other.
Dance to your old records.
Go to the Beach. Head to the beach for a day of laying out in the sun, relaxation, and getting to know someone.
Volunteer Together. A great date idea, head anywhere from a soup kitchen to a home for the elderly to volunteer, while getting to know your date.
Head to a Free Outdoor Concert. A great way to spend a summer afternoon, seek out a free outdoor concert, everything from the symphony to an indie band, and enjoy.
Work on a DIY Project. Look through Pinterest for a project, and then execute it together.
Sing Karaoke. While you are on your karaoke date, don’t forget to do a duet. When in doubt, Sonny and Cher’s “I Got You Babe” can’t be beat.
Plan a Picnic. Whether you’re heading to a park or even just your backyard or fire escape, put down a blanket, get a spread of yummy snacks, a bottle of wine, and you’ve got yourself a lovely, low-cost date.
Visit a Museum and See Something Unexpected.Going to a museum is a great date idea. Go see a controversial show, and the conversation will flow easily from there.
Go to a street fair. Because life is sweet when food is cheap. Plus, it's fun to discover new and interesting types of foods and vendors.
I’m back and still on about “Date Night”. I hope that you are finding this as interesting and informative as I did while exploring this topic.
I want to be clear, I am not suggesting that your relationship or all relationships should be fun and games all the time, I know all too well that life happens. But I do believe that a relationship built on intimacy, satisfaction and fun are better equipped to handle all the “life” that comes at us!
We have previously covered some of the benefits as well as the statistics of “Date Night”. Now we are going to dive right into tips on dating your partner as well as at what can help make “Date Night” successful. I know that as I started reading about “Date Night” it sounded great but perhaps a little corny or even intimidating, ugh, where to start? Well I think I have some pretty good tips lined out for you that will help to make “Date Night” successful!
Not to overstate this but…. we all know that relationships require work. Studies show that couples who report satisfaction in their relationships often report “working” at their relationships. This work can come in the form of putting effort into communication, consideration, compromise, kindness, thoughtfulness and fostering a solid friendship. It can also mean making time for each other, romantically. Having regular a “Date Night” seems like a great practice for couples to get into from the beginning, why not ensure that you keep that spark alive and consistent!
In my last post we talked about the benefits of having regular “Date Nights”, today we are going to look at a few of the statistics that are “Date Night” related
The National Marriage Project called ‘The Date Night Opportunity’ confirmed the effectiveness of a weekly date night, for those who are in a committed relationship, living together or married. Here are the 10 stats that to me, make perfect sense in regards to instituting a “Date Night” especially NUMBER NINE!
If I am reading this correctly, I am pretty sure that this is a no brainer folks! BUT with the statistics of better communication, greater quality relationship, increased attraction, higher than average sexual satisfaction and increased individual as well as couples identity this seems promising.
We all know relationships take work, “Date Night” is only one component in a much larger picture as we know relationships can’t always unfold beautifully and perfectly. We can however make some of that work we put into them FUN!? I can’t seem to find any major draw backs and the upsides seems pretty damn good to me. It’s great to be content and comfortable, but there is something to be said for not taking a partner or relationship for granted and potentially having it become distant or boring. Oh gosh, I said the dreaded B word!
The term “Date Night” has secured a firm place in the lexicon of current social language has become a “thing” and is rapidly gaining in popularity.
Personally, Iv’e always thought of dating as something that happens when we want to meet someone, I’ve never really thought of dating the person I am in a committed relationship or marriage with and I am sure I am not alone in this. However, It seems that loads of Institutes and relationship experts are doing research, reporting stats and recommending we all jump on that “Date Night” train.
Recently on a sleepless and potentially frustrated night, I decided that some “Professional” 3:00 am research on the “inter webs” was necessary on my part in order to learn more and understand the social phenomenon of “Date Night”” I wanted to ascertain “What’s the deal?” and “Can it help?”. So down the Google rabbit hole I went learning all that I could about this so called “Date Night”
Turns out “Date Night” looks as if it can be pretty rad and healthy for your relationship. It seems (with some pretty convincing and fairly damn logical points and stats) that “Date Night” can reap substantial benefits for most of us! “Date Night” = A fun way to foster healthy communication and interpersonal goodness for people in all stages of relationships. From the newly committed to the engaged, married or married with children.
Honestly, I was more than a little overwhelmed with all of the information I found. I am going to try and break this down for you in a 4 part miniseries, yep bite size pieces babes!
Date Night helps with communication. This is an essential element of an intimate relationship. But communication also involves the willingness to deliberately remove distractions such as children and career demands. Date nights offers couples the opportunity to discuss topics of mutual importance. They can self-define, and dialogue about mutual aspirations. Communication is like a muscle. Sometimes you plan your communication work-outs. Gottman’s research, in particular, tells us that a “stress-reducing” conversation can help couples to stay current with what is actually moving through their intimate partner’s life.
Couples typically experience a habituation, a “settling in” quality where both are more likely to take each other for granted. The symbiotic “we are a couple” can settle into an ordinary domestic routine. But new research indicates that a deficit in fun and novelty is toxic. A balance of activities, interesting to both, which emphasizes novel and different experiences can help increase intimacy.
Romantic love is that erotic spark, excitement, and an overwhelming sense of attraction to your significant other. But with time, the emotional and physical expression of erotic love tend to transcend for many couples.
Because Date Night allows a couple to completely focus on their connection, the erotic spark may be restored by the intentional pursuit of romance, novelty, and deeper communication. Date nights may not only rekindle the romance, regular Date Nights can be helpful in sustaining the fires of love over the long haul.
Couples that have a regular “Date Night” maintain a connection through intimate conversation and emotional support. They also lower the stress on their own brains, as well as their partners. Fortunately, nature has endowed us with great resiliency in this area. We don’t always have to connect with our partner perfectly, but we do have to preserve and develop our capacity to pay attention and be fully present to our partners when they are stressed, and to be a solidly loyal and reliable friend.
The benefits of creating time to date your partner seem to be pretty strong as well as motivating. If you are looking to strengthen a bond, maintain a healthy relationship or do some damage control and re kindle romantic love I am of the opinion that “Date Night” is a pretty cool thing that can assist in any of the above mentioned.
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Thank you for Entering— STAY TUNED for our Date Night Series Blogs starting January 1st, 2019
You will also want to tune in on Valentines Day as we Announce the 3 Lucky Winners and their Partners!!
This could be YOU
French American novelist and writer of erotica, Anais Nin once said
“She lacks confidence, she craves admiration insatiably. She lives on the reflections of
herself in the eyes of others. She does not dare to be herself.”
If I could be so bold I would expand upon Nin’s above quote by saying
“She cannot see herself as beautifully as the rest of the world does.”
That is exactly where I believe my purpose in life is now. I am here to show you, your breath taking humanity, delicacy, femininity, sensuality, longing, desire, pleasure, strength, vulnerability and absolute beauty! I want you to experience yourself as those who interact with you do, those who respect and admire you, those who are intimate with you and mostly those who love you. I need to be the mirror that so many of us are missing, a mirror that shows you that true and beautiful reflection of our inner and external beauty.
Anais Ninn was a beautiful and wondrous creature and I could easily write this entire post about my profound love of her work and admiration for her as a human. However, today I want to talk about how we can all learn from her trail blazing examples of freedom in femininity, sensuality, sexuality and the all-important practice of self-love.
TODAYS POST IS ABOUT YOU, IT’S ABOUT ME, IT’S ABOUT ALL OF US…. LEANING INTO OUR FEAR AND BEGINNING A JOURNEY, OR RATHER, CONTINUING A JOURNEY OF EXPLORATION, ACCEPTANCE AND SELF LOVE.
“There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
– Anaïs Nin
Modern Love Boudoir is offering:
this Valentine’s Day and I hope every single person who reads this post takes advantage of it and walks through my doors!
I personally know the hardships of not accepting and loving oneself and I know the beauty of self-love and how it blossoms and spreads like wild flowers throughout every aspect of your life when it is a mindful practice.
This year gift YOURSELF the permission to be you, unapologetically gorgeous, feminine, sensual and perfect just as you are! It’s time to explore vulnerability, beauty and self-love with a
Honestly, we have all been conditioned in one way or another not to honor ourselves, not to be free and true, Not to believe we are enough and it is
Social and cultural values as well as media from every direction have taught us that there is something lacking within us, an inner emptiness that needs to be filled externally. There is actually a place within us that needs to be filled but it does not come from an external source. It is the realization that we are enough, we are worthy of love and then WE fill that place with self-love. Only then can we truly love in all the beautiful ways that love is meant to be experienced!
This conditioning sets us up to falter and fall. When we are looking outside of ourselves for validation and love we are looking in all the wrong places, true love starts and comes from within.
“An understanding of our true beauty, value and worthiness is where it all must begin.”
Self-love is the most important quality you can cultivate, it will determine how you speak and act, how you treat yourself and others, what decisions you will make, in short – it affects EVERYTHING.
Self-love begins with awareness, a clear understanding of your value, your humanity, your beauty and authenticity.
Many of us have been conditioned to be afraid of our truths, we suppress who we are or fear who we are not. When you let others determine your truth, your value and dictate who you are supposed to be versus just being unapologetically you.
Self-love begins with acceptance and acknowledgement. Embracing your beauty and strengths and knowing we are all perfectly imperfect in one way or another. We simply cannot be everything to everybody!
What you can be is everything to yourself!
No more comparing yourself with others. See the uniqueness in yourself, let go of the “should be” and the “should’ve been” and come play with me! Together we can explore all of your beauty and create an experience that will leave a lasting impression and a kick start on your self love journey that spreads like wild fire baby!
ARE YOU MY NEW MUSE!?
We have some very exciting changes happening at the Modern Love Studio. As the new year rolls in we will be focusing more on luxury sessions for our clients. We will be accepting fewer commissions monthly and spending more time with these clients giving them the experience of a lifetime.
I am looking for roughly 15-20 real people to be the faces of Modern Love Boudoir. If you are age 22-65 and have dreamed of what it would be like to model for a nationally recognized brand, I WANT YOU! If you want to explore your beauty, passion, femininity, vulnerability and step outside of the box I WANT YOU! If you want to be empowered and not objectified
I WANT YOU!
I have an insatiable passion for showing people how beautifully the rest of the world sees them, capturing not only their physical beauty but all of the gorgeous and magnificent humanity within them. I just can't get enough, so are you next!?
I'm brilliant at bringing out and capturing all aspects of the true beauty in my clients. The Modern Love Boudoir session will be an experience that transforms you personally and delivers the most beautiful images of oneself imaginable!
You’ll be given the opportunity to experience the new Modern Love Boudoir Session and forever see yourself in a new light. Our talented hair and makeup artist will pamper and style you in preparation for your session with me, Denise Birdsong. I am the owner, creative director and principal photographer at Modern Love. In addition, I am an international educator and an award winning photographer who is well known and highly regarded in the industry as an innovator and leader of emotive boudoir photography!
Join me in our gorgeous Modern Love boudoir studio, the largest in the world (really!) where together we will work magic. A few lucky models will be chosen to have portions of their shoots filmed by our incredible videographer and star in our upcoming promotional videos!.
NO MODELING EXPERIENCE NECESSARY
Each season we hand select and curate new pieces for our extensive wardrobe collection here at Modern Love.
We are super excited about new additions to the Modern Love wardrobe, sets and new team members that we want to showcase!
We are overflowing with gorgeous and opulent ideas for these sessions.
Are you one of the women we need to help us bring these visions of style and grace to life? We would love for you to be a part of this exciting styled shoot.
WHAT WE NEED FROM YOU
YOU MUST BE
* Between the ages of 22-55
* Available for a WEEKDAY session in September and October
* Willing to do a boudoir session
* Sign a full model release
* Be ready to be blown away by how beautifully I see you!
WHAT YOU GET
* Luxurious and pampering professional Modern Love Makeover by our AMAZING Hair Stylist | Makeup Artist
* A highly sought after complimentary boudoir photo session with the award winning Denise Birdsong
* Private (in person) SAME DAY viewing appointment 1 hour AFTER your session! Pretty cool right? Check out our gorgeous viewing room below!
* $100 credit towards any a la carte MODEL CALL products you would like to purchase
HERE IS HOW YOU BECOME THE FACE OF MODERN LOVE...
If you want to take advantage of this amazing opportunity, if you think you are ready to look and feel your most beautiful and you want to be a part of a truly artistic endeavor full of style, beauty and grace simply email us stating WHY you want to model and attach a photo of yourself to: Studio@modernlovephotography.com
WE CAN'T WAIT TO HEAR FROM YOU AND SHOW YOU HOW AMAZING YOU ARE!
In October I had the pleasure of heading to New York and teaching other photographers from around the world who we shoot here at Modern Love.
The name of our Educational series is Stripped Down and I teach annually at WPPI as well as travel around the states teaching this boudoir methodology.
THIS WAS LACY'S BOUDOIR SESSION, I LOVE HER! I WANTED TO GET MOODY EMOTIVE IMAGES FROM HER, WAS THE FIRST TIME SHOOTING MY PARTNER WHO RUNS MODERN LOVE OKC
SECOND LOOK AT SUTOR WITH LACY OF MODERN LOVE OK